If you’ve started a wall, you’ve already done the hardest part: you decided to create something genuinely meaningful instead of sending another generic gift.
The next step is usually where people pause: who to invite.
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That hesitation is normal. Most creators want to get it “exactly right.” You don’t need perfect—you just need a list that gives the recipient a warm, complete experience.
A quick reassurance before you make your list
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You don’t need hundreds of people.
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You don’t need everyone to respond.
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You don’t need a “perfect” message from every person.
What matters is that the recipient receives a chorus of real voices that clearly communicate: you’re loved, you matter, and people showed up.
The short path (5 minutes)
Here’s a simple way to build your invite list fast:
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Start with your core circle (6–12 people).
The closest family and friends. The people who would naturally be there if you were celebrating in person. -
Add a memory circle (4–10 people).
People from meaningful chapters: old friends, former coworkers, teammates, neighbors, mentors—anyone whose voice would feel genuinely welcome. -
Choose 1–3 “anchors.”
These are reliable people who will actually record a message. If responses are light, anchors keep the wall feeling strong and complete.
That’s enough. You’re done.
How many people should you invite?
Most walls don’t get a 100% response rate. People are busy. They forget. They mean well and still miss deadlines.
So the rule is simple: invite more people than you think you need.
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If you’d love 8–12 messages, invite 15–25 people.
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If you’d love 15–25 messages, invite 30–50 people.
If those numbers feel big, remember: an invite is not a demand. It’s a door you’re opening. Some people will walk through it. Some won’t. Either way, you’re still creating something meaningful.
Who belongs on the list (and who doesn’t)
Good people to invite
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Anyone who has a real relationship with the recipient
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Anyone who can share a specific memory or appreciation
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Anyone whose short message would still matter
People you can skip
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People who only know the recipient “on paper”
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People who bring drama, unpredictability, or discomfort
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People you’d feel nervous handing the microphone to
It’s worth saying plainly: you’re allowed to curate.
This isn’t a group chat. It’s a gift.
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A simple invite message you can copy/paste
Keep it warm, clear, and low-pressure. Something like:
Hey—I'm putting together a group video wall as a gift.
Would you be willing to record a short message? 30–60 seconds is perfect.
Here’s the link to add your video.
If you’re not sure what to say, a favorite memory or one thing you appreciate is more than enough.
Thank you—it’ll mean a lot.
That’s all you need.
A gentle follow-up that doesn’t feel awkward
Most people appreciate a reminder. This is the one that stays human:
Quick reminder—I'm collecting short video messages for a group video wall gift.
If you can add something by the deadline, it would really help.
Here’s the link again.
No worries at all if you’re slammed—just wanted to make sure you saw it.
Common worries (so you don’t spiral)
“What if only a few people respond?”
Then the wall is smaller—and still meaningful.
A handful of sincere messages often lands harder than a pile of generic ones.
“What if I invite too many people?”
Inviting isn’t imposing. People can ignore it without harm.
The only real mistake is inviting someone who would make the moment worse—so curate calmly.
“What if people feel awkward on camera?”
Most people do. It’s fine. The recipient doesn’t want polished. They want real.
“What if there’s family tension?”
Protect the moment. Invite the people who will add warmth and stability.
This is about the recipient’s experience, not politics.
Next best action
Make your list of 15–25 names, send the invite, and then let it be simple.
If you want, the next tutorial helps you get better messages with prompts that make recording easier for everyone.
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